Gaslighting_Definition and skills


Gaslighting is one of the most harmful forms of mental and emotional abuse.  The abuser tries to make the victim doubt their own thoughts, memories, and actions.
To “gaslight” someone isn’t just to lie to them or to manipulate their emotions.

Eventually, the victim becomes so incapacitated by fear and doubt that they are easily manipulated into doing whatever the perpetrator wishes. They lose all their fight and become the metaphorical puppets of their abusive masters.



Also, it happens with the rigid hierarchy for instance parents and children, superior officer and employee, husband and wife.

Common skills How to “gaslighting” ::

 the abuser feigns a lack of understanding, refuses to listen and declines to share his emotions.
  • “I’m not listening to that crap again tonight.”
  • “You’re just trying to confuse me.”
  • “Why didn’t you tell that moment and Why do you have to bring up past incidents now?”
 The abuser will vehemently call into question a victim’s memory in spite of the victim having remembered things correctly.
  • “Think about when you didn’t remember things correctly last time.”
  • “You thought that last time and you were wrong.”
To make the victim believe his or her thought and memory are not important
“Where did you get a crazy idea like that?”
“Quit bitching.”
“I never know that you are pressed that much”
“Forgetting” and “Denial”
The abuser pretends to forget things that have really occurred.
“You were agreed and you were happy with that”
“Don’t put words in my mouth”





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